Our counsellors understand that we were each born into an environment that had specific expectations around how we would engage with life, love, relationships, ourselves and others. When we do not fit with those expectations, we often experience distress, shame, judgement and feelings of disappointment. Although there is a growing body of resources, most of us have not had many lived examples to help us in our engagement with our non-traditional selves (including post-colonial two-spirit, lesbian, gay, queer, transgender, and non-binary selves), relationships, and ways of being.