Megan or mj is a Registered Clinical Counsellor who works from an anti-oppressive framework built on empathy and justice.  She specializes in working with folks who are exploring neurodiversity, kink, queer family systems, non-traditional parenting, and various non-normative relationship structures that fall somewhere within ethical non-monogamy and polyamorous ways of being. 

The foundation of my interest in most of the therapeutic work that I do is rooted in my personal life journey and evolves as I expand. I was brought up in a conservative evangelical christian world where I felt like an unwelcome anomaly and came up hard against the rigid expectations and limits placed on me.  I was raised in purity culture, where I was told that there was no such thing as being gay, that as a female I would never be permitted to lead, and that my body and my sex were to be saved for my future husband.  I took my identity exploration on the road and lived a wild and vibrant young adult life out of a backpack seeking story from Delhi to Sarajevo to Cairo to Klaipeda.  I wonder if a part of the driving force behind my expansive journeying was a search for some kind of relatability, some kind of history that looked a little more poly, kinky and queer than the one that I was taught. 

Perhaps the greatest awareness with which I emerged was that we are a part of the natural world, within which there is abundant metaphor. Our emotions flow as the tides, we experience loss as predictably as the seasons, and the presence of change is consistent.   

I have been counselling folks for over a decade now and a foundational part of my therapeutic work is supporting people in developing personal, natural ways to flow through turbulence.  I find that the clients who benefit from working with me the most are clients who are at a place of readiness for some kind of a change.  This can be readiness to shift ways of relating, readiness to be brutally honest, readiness to have accountability, readiness to speak the shame, readiness to start to do something different.   

I have an integrated counselling approach that is curious and conversational, rooted in attachment theory, systems, parts work, and intersectional feminism.  As a white person, I have a huge amount of privilege and this requires that I keep witnessing and listening and reading and unlearning and also knowing that there are so many experiences that I will just never come close to embodying.  I approach my work with humility and I actively seek a balance of gratitude and discomfort.  I believe that it is my responsibility to humanize and elevate marginalized voices and experiences. 

My brain often thinks in metaphors far outside of the box; I like to challenge norms and explore nuance that people are often afraid to touch.  I am comfortable hanging out in darkness and I welcome conversations surrounding death.  I experience life on spectrums, poly as natural, kink as healing, and queerness as far more expansive than most people realize.  I keep myself afloat by digging in the dirt, planting trees, foraging, dancing, and taking my medicines. 

Individual Counselling: $170/session (plus GST) 

Relationship Counselling: $185/session (plus GST)